On blind spots

by Andrew Wien

Posted on November 26, 2020

On blind spots
My goal here is to share an emotional experience, not a political view. However, politics these days tend to cause a lot of emotions, so the backdrop is politics.

When news organizations announced that Joe Biden will become the 46th President of the United States, I experienced a profound sense of relief. My body relaxed. I felt like I could breathe deeply for the first time in years.

This sense of relief was surprising. Yes, I am a strong critic of Trump. But over the past four years, I thought I had learned to relate to his speech and actions in an effective way. I was wrong.

I was blind to the tension that I was carrying around. Seeing Trump’s speech and actions in the news slowly wound me up like a wind-up toy. It happened so gradually that I never noticed. Four years later and I was deeply stressed. Yes, I was stressed about income, keeping our newborn baby safe, and adapting to a new social life under COVID. But what I was blind to was the added layer of stress attributed to the president himself. I had no idea it was there.

That’s the problem. We can’t begin to manage stress or tension when we don’t know it exists.

If you felt the same sense of surprise and relief as I did, okay. Recognize this was a blind spot.

​Where might there be other blind spots in your life?

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