Are you sometimes silent about things that matter?

by Andrew Wien


Posted on September 20, 2020


Are you sometimes silent about things that matter?
“Our lives begin to end the day we are silent about things that matter.” Martin Luther King.

Are you sometimes silent about things that matter?

When something matters, we need to talk about it. Not to ourselves, but with others. When we don’t, it is likely because the conversation seems difficult.

​If you are like most, you might do a cost / benefit analysis in your head and decide it’s just not worth it. Better to stay silent. The problem here is most folks overestimate the costs and underestimate the benefits.

Pick a topic that you have been silent about. Take a moment to think about both the costs and benefits of bringing the issue up.

Costs: a relationship does not end from one conversation going poorly. It ends from a lack of a multitude of conversations over time. Are the costs really as great as you think?

Benefits: how much baggage are you carrying around not bringing up this issue? What if you could let it go? What are the chances that this conversation might improve the relationship?

Nice work. Are you now more likely to bring this conversation up? Let us know in the comments.

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